Mia · After the relationship
Leaving does not always end the pattern
Contact, pursuit, money, children, housing, work, and reputation can keep a pattern going after separation.
If you feel unsafe now, go directly to help. You do not need to read this first.
Get safety help nowWhat is happening now?
Contact is continuing
Save original messages where safe, note dates and channels, and avoid changing old records. An advocate can help you think through replies or no reply.
Review safe documentationI’m considering no contact
No contact can reduce access, but it is not possible or safest for everyone—especially with children, shared work, housing, or legal obligations.
Talk through optionsI’m being followed or monitored
Treat unwanted pursuit, account access, trackers, and repeated appearances as safety concerns. Use a safer device if yours may be monitored.
Read about monitoring